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Friday, 9 September 2016

Leather and Lingerie: A Slutty Sissy Whore Sex Adventure

There are many men who enjoy wearing women's underwear just for the pleasure of its tactile feel. 

For some it will also extend their emotional attachment to their softer side, where they can enjoy the relaxed fantasy world of role play. And where, for once, they are the centre of attraction, the desired woman, the femme fatale lusted after by men who desire femininity mixed with their testosterone heterosexuality and/or bisexuality.

For others, role-playing the female slut is a desirable outcome. Through internet connections I have verbally been introduced to that world of rich sexual textures by a practitioner of the art. The heady mix of male leather domination played out with a strong bisexual slutty whore male is one rarely spoken of, let alone described.

In a broad-minded second heterosexual relationship (and that's frequently important in order to live out repressed sexual deviation roles) this man is living his deepest sexual desires as a dominant male in that relationship. Mild bondage, sex toys, poppers (amyl) and role play are just some of enjoyments he and his female companion enjoy.

But there's also the flip side of the relationship - the desire to be the one dominated, to be the sissy slut, take on the traditional role of whore where dominating men don't ask, they just sexually take whatever they want - and that includes no respect for how they take it.

"I can only be a slutty sissy whore with a man that also enjoys the fantasy" he wrote to me.

In his own words this is how he described the encounter with a broadminded - and like-minded - leather man he met on an online dating site....

"Just writing to you to let you know of my latest sex adventure. Met an older man at his place after we chatted for a few days... He enjoys younger men who are subs and enjoy being fem and sissy....it was exactly what I was looking for... He was waiting for me at his front door in a tight leather g string with a bottle of poppers for me to take...I took a few whiffs and we were right into kissing and fondling ourselves...it was wild... He ordered me to go and clean my cock and balls and pussy in front of him, he would inspect me as I soaped myself up, I would wash myself and he would smell and finger my pussy...it was quite erotic and sensual...after he was satisfied and ordered me to put on a silky sexy black lingerie set and put on a black leather collar. As I put on the lingerie, I could see his cock becoming rock hard, as I transformed into his whore.... He took hold of the leash and made me crawl towards his spare room which was actually a sling room, all it had in the centre was a black leather sling with a table full of lubes dildos and gag balls... He put a gag ball on me and proceeded to
rim me open legged on the sling, his tongue felt so good on my pussy. He expertly licked my balls leaving lots of saliva, he spat on my pussy and began opening me up....he went to the table and put a cock ring on me, my balls become so big and hard, it was wild. He put on some really sexy music and lots of erotic incense while a transexual movie played on the tv.... Mmmmm he started with a tiny vibrator then gradually moved on till he had a ribbed black one inside, felt so good as he fed me plastic and lube... I couldn't say anything accept moan thru the gag ball and dribbling all over... My cock was gushing precum all over and he knew that
All photos courtesy Tumblr
because he kept playing with my foreskin over and over.... He had a mirrored wall and I could see his cock fully erected, he put so much lube, it was all over his beautiful member then climbed on top of me, kissed me, licked my face, left it full of saliva and started to push in, in one strong manly push he went in all the way and fucked me furiously, the room was hot with the central heating making our manly passion burn with sweat, I was dripping sweat, saliva, precum, lube as he pumped me like a slut.... He finished all over my sweat covered face...it was so good... And collapsed on top of me exhausted dripping in manly sweat mixing with mine, we kissed like savages, tongues, spit .... I ended cumming on his mouth and he swallowed it all.... What a fuck......"

Disclaimer: All advice and information given here on this blog is general in nature and non-specific to any individual, couple or group. You are encouraged to seek your own independent professional medical, psychological and counselling advice. No endorsement of unlawful actions is intended or implied  


A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS: How And Where To Find Your Man 

When it is time to have sex with men, you need answers! 

Don't f**k up the potentially hottest sex time in your life by not knowing the facts. I'm the ex-married gay man who writes this blog, so I'm sharing my experiences with you in this easy-to-read ebook so that your sex with guys can be brilliant and always available. 

It's the best couple of dollars you'll ever invest!

ebook download at:


THE VERSATILE HUSBAND: Live Your Passion This is a more comprehensive version of A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS and includes examining why as sexually frustrated men we feel the way we do and what can be done to improve the situation. Particularly useful for any married man who needs more detail  before deciding whether or not to sexually play with men.

e-book and paperback at Amazon.com or
paperback only at your favourite online or local bookstore.

For a plain unidentifiable eBook cover edition go tohttp://www.amazon.com/Versatile-Husband-Plain-Cover-ebook/dp/B009V5AXEI

"A straightforward, practical guide for men in heterosexual relationships who'd like to explore sex with other men. Frank, honest and understanding."Kirkus Reviews




Tuesday, 5 July 2016

Nude Night at the Gay Bathhouse/Sauna

Sixty or more guys of all ages, totally naked in a confined area, all seeking unashamed hot sex. That's what a Nude Night (or afternoon) at a gay bathhouse/sauna is like. At other times, modesty prevails as men on the hunt wear towels to hide their sexual assets. But at towel-less sessions everything is on display for all to view, consider and then if interested, chase after. Erections, thick cocks, shy cocks, uncut cocks, shaved pubes, hairy butts - they're all on display - and more.

At these events it's all about sex and often that means anonymous group sex. It's NOT an occasion for slow sex sessions with perhaps a conversation included. No! It's about getting off now, with as many guys as you care to share, about having physical contact and insertion without caring too much about who, what or why. When there's an orifice, a mouth, a penis available for use, then go with it.

It's a very friendly event as guys are there because of their sexual and naked confidence. They want to do as gay men have done for generations and that is have multiple, abandoned, anonymous and pleasurable group sex with one another in the time honored tradition. It's all masculine testosterone driven and it's all about satisfying the sex drive, the frustrations of relationships (both male and female) and the lack of male intimacy and bonding that pervades so many men's lives. It's about giving, receiving and enjoying without making judgement. There's precious few other places where naked men can bond in such an open display of masculinity and camaraderie of like-minds.

There's the crowded corridors where you can brush past other naked guys, touch and smile, make eye and verbal contact, start some action. Cubicle doors are often left open to invite the voyeur and the next participant into the established on-going action. The dark rooms specialize in men with their naked butts in the air inviting the next punter to use his ass for as long as he wants to. It's a high turnover affair with an unwritten law that sees many a participant notching up a considerable number of sexual encounters before considering cumming. It's about how many men ride the guy who wants to be gang-banged. About how many guys can I fuck in one night. It's about numbers rather than quality.

All photos courtesy tumblr
Exhibitionism is everywhere. It's not a time for the shy man - there's quite simply nowhere to hide. It's a great opportunity for the 'average' guy to get to see and play with guys who he would normally not get to first base with. It's frequently about whoever is next to you will do for the moment before moving on to the next opportunity. It's about hearing and watching sex taking place just as much as participating. It's an erotic and stimulating environment for the senses. The reality is that there are such events as these that you can participate in and not just fantasize about.

The event is also a sexual reality check. Is the reality of being nude in front of sixty or more guys uncomfortable or liberating? Is bareback sex going to give you guilt? Is the intimacy of one-on-one sex that takes time and includes conversation more satisfying than multiple anonymous encounters? Do poppers/amyl and/or alcohol assist in abandoning your inhibitions? When you give oral are you worried about where it might have just been (and I don't mean just freshly showered).

It's also about bareback sex and the issues especially for transmission of sexual infections. My observation is that while condoms are available, they're infrequently used. This means there's a higher risk than normal of going home with an extra unwanted STI (sexually transmitted infections) or crabs.

So if a sexual male play-space with so many uninhibited naked men as you can handle is what you're looking for, then check out the gay sauna/bathhouse in your city and chances are you'll find a night or afternoon where it's naked action. These events tend to attract a much higher number of men than on normal nights, and that can only mean a wider variety of like-minded guys are waiting for you to show-up and get your gear off too. Have fun!
Disclaimer: All advice and information given here on this blog is general in nature and non-specific to any individual, couple or group. You are encouraged to seek your own independent professional medical, psychological and counselling advice. No endorsement of unlawful actions is intended or implied  


A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS: How And Where To Find Your Man 

When it is time to have sex with men, you need answers! 

Don't f**k up the potentially hottest sex time in your life by not knowing the facts. I'm the ex-married gay man who writes this blog, so I'm sharing my experiences with you in this easy-to-read ebook so that your sex with guys can be brilliant and always available. 

It's the best couple of dollars you'll ever invest!

ebook download at:


THE VERSATILE HUSBAND: Live Your Passion This is a more comprehensive version of A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS and includes examining why as sexually frustrated men we feel the way we do and what can be done to improve the situation. Particularly useful for any married man who needs more detail  before deciding whether or not to sexually play with men.

e-book and paperback at Amazon.com or
paperback only at your favourite online or local bookstore.

For a plain unidentifiable eBook cover edition go tohttp://www.amazon.com/Versatile-Husband-Plain-Cover-ebook/dp/B009V5AXEI

"A straightforward, practical guide for men in heterosexual relationships who'd like to explore sex with other men. Frank, honest and understanding."Kirkus Reviews




Saturday, 21 May 2016

Cigars, Boots, Socks: M/M Sexual Images That Turn Us On

Our mainstream man-to-man sexual encounters in homes are generally totally naked affairs. Clothes off and into the action.

I was recently reminded of how limiting this is when a new trick (a married man) left his white socks on for our sex session. I had tried to take them off, but he indicated that it was a turn-on for him and made him feel much more masculine and hence, more horny. It was a hangover he said, from his teen years and later when we talked, it was also about not being 'totally naked' with another man. It was his oblique way of justifying to himself that he hadn't fully crossed over the forbidden line into 'gay' territory. Oh well, each to his own...

Surprisingly, his socks intrigued me. In my head, white socks are associated with sports, and that means athleticism, muscles, energy. Hence my imagination went in to overdrive giving me images that led me to believe that I was having sex with a much younger man who was very athletic. My sexual energy picked up and my enthusiasm grew as my imagination grew. Maybe there were deep-seated memories for me of watching locker-room porn, erotic stories about the coach and the young recruit, maybe it was my hot love affair with a tennis player years before. But whatever it was, it triggered some of the horniest sex I've recently had.

Who of us can resist a visual of a partially clothed workman, his muscles bulging, his body sweating and his big over-size workman's boots giving us a sense of rugged masculinity. I know I can't - and if that naked hunk is only wearing either just a hard-hat or a pair of huge boots then it's impossible not to become as horny as hell.

To some friends of mine, if you add a cigar and two day old stubble to that naked man then that is pure intoxication of manliness.

And why is it that speedos on a man at the beach always excites? It's the imagination of the voyeur wondering what the bulge might offer in the way of gratification should they have the opportunity to reveal it. Cut, uncut, long, thick, small, available - it's sex of the mind. It's safe, harmless and excites the groin for later sex with someone else.

Sex at the beats and cruising locations takes on an added dimension of danger, illicitness, urgency when trousers are dropped and oral or anal activities happen on that spot. The speedy need to pull them up should the occasion suddenly arise means that the window of opportunity might be a limited one. Therefore see and play quickly. Nothing turns a beat user on more than seeing sex taking place where a guy has his trousers around his ankles and has no means of running away. It's as if sex is nailed to the spot and it's not going to escape. It's yours merely by presenting your cock and showing that you're not a threat.

Other men I know love braces holding up trousers on older men. Another is turned on by a guy wearing frilly female underwear. Another enjoys men of any age in a leather harness. Others like a beard, nipple rings, black businessman's sox and suspenders, tattoos, natural man smells etc. It's all very personal and individual.

These all trigger a sexual response within the mind of the beholder. They're another reminder that sexual excitation is not necessarily all about nudity. It's about fun, about being turned on by trigger moments that probably give us an added burst of testosterone and hence, an added enthusiasm and energy for the sex session. Sometimes it's a reminder of previous sexual gratification that was in some way very meaningful for us, perhaps a reminder of someone in our life who gave us a safe haven and smelt or looked a particular way.
All photos this page courtesy Tumblr

And sometimes it's our new partner who can introduce us or re-introduce us, to something that will make that sex session memorable, or at least out-of-the-ordinary, just by not being totally naked.

If I'm asked to leave a particular item on during sex and it helps either of us to get more excited, then I'm all for it. The totally nude session can wait for next time!




A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS: How And Where To Find Your Man 

When it is time to have sex with men, you need answers! 

Don't f**k up the potentially hottest sex time in your life by not knowing the facts. I'm the ex-married gay man who writes this blog, so I'm sharing my experiences with you in this easy-to-read ebook so that your sex with guys can be brilliant and always available. 

It's the best couple of dollars you'll ever invest!

ebook download at:


THE VERSATILE HUSBAND: Live Your Passion This is a more comprehensive version of A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS and includes examining why as sexually frustrated men we feel the way we do and what can be done to improve the situation. Particularly useful for any married man who needs more detail  before deciding whether or not to sexually play with men.

e-book and paperback at Amazon.com or
paperback only at your favourite online or local bookstore.

For a plain unidentifiable eBook cover edition go tohttp://www.amazon.com/Versatile-Husband-Plain-Cover-ebook/dp/B009V5AXEI

"A straightforward, practical guide for men in heterosexual relationships who'd like to explore sex with other men. Frank, honest and understanding."Kirkus Reviews