Friday 28 November 2014

Big Cocks and How To Handle Them



We all seem to love looking at them trying to imagine what a well-hung, 9 inches plus, beer can girth, monster erection could do for our sex life.

So today let’s take a brief look at the issues of enjoying sex when the penis is a whopper - or at least above 'average'.

Reality:
It’s estimated that 4 out of 5 men have a penis that grows much larger during erection. But when all men are erect the difference in length between each is considerably less than you might imagine. It’s a much more even playing field than what you see flaccid. If you’re more than 6 inches erect, then you can probably classify yourself as big or at least, larger than average. Of course there are magnificent exceptions.

Watching:
The showers are always a fabulous place to linger and watch for large man meat. Checking out to see if the tall bulky built man is equally as well endowed below is a game I like to play as I watch. My favourite shower scene is the Thermos Sauna (bathhouse) in Amsterdam. For anyone with an interest in the larger penis this is a fantasy come true. It’s not only the local Dutchmen who are well hung, but men from all over Europe and the world provide an equally intoxicating visual display. And most are not particularly aware that they are bigger than ‘average’. Such modesty! There’s always been talk that a long index finger can also mean a long penis. So with that in mind I do my best research in front of the showers. But by my amateur reckoning, height seems to be more of a factor for longer length than anything else. Check out a tall basketball height man naked and see if I’m not right.


Fantasy and Myth:
So many of us use porn stars as our criteria for judging equipment size that we perpetuate the myth that you can only have great sex if your partner is well hung. When we look at dating profiles or other sexual hookups sites we tend to look towards the guys who are well hung (that is, anything bigger than we are) and as such, we then assume that they will be able to sexually satisfy us better than someone ‘average’ or smaller. In my experience, big does not automatically equate to a guaranteed high performance level. When making our choice of partner there are other criteria including sensuality, height, age, body shape, etc yet invariably we initially focus on the cock as being the be-all and end-all of potential satisfaction.

Oral:
When you are going down on that semi-erect cock that has just plopped out of his jocks, you’ll soon know if you’ve over-estimated your oral dexterity. How often when faced with the engorged reality have we uttered “FAAAARRK”, given a deep gulp in preparation and done a reality check on ourselves as to how we are going to tame this monster. After all we don’t want the shame of not being able to perform. Whatever your expletive, chances are the guy has heard it many times before. He knows that some adept guys will be able to take all or much of the length into their mouth, yet there will be others who will only be able to cope with the head. Just get on with the job and he won’t mind either way. You’re the man of the moment so he’s not going anywhere. Any warm mouth when you’re naked and horny is expedient.  Enthusiastically give him as fun a time as you can. If you can’t take a lot into your mouth and down the throat, then use that tongue all over his balls, shaft and especially around the base of the head. Gently circle and wank the base of his shaft with your fingers. Combine this with tonguing of the delicate glans area at the base of his penis head, (especially in a circulatory direction) and you’ll send him to ecstasy. If you’re going to take his load in your mouth, be prepared for the volume he could pump out, and also that in his enthusiasm he might well extend your mouth as he thrusts into it. And keep your teeth well out of the way - it will kill any further activity if he feels them.

Anal:
If you’re a newbie to being a bottom in anal sex, then don’t let your imagination overtake the reality of how much cock your anal canal can actually take. With time, lots of finger manipulation, maybe even with some dildo stretching, many an anus can open beyond what you imagine you are capable of. Liberal use of lubrication is important and a slow staggered entry of the large cock is advised. This is also a good time for that first whiff of poppers (amyl) if you are so inclined to take the edge off any slight anticipatory pain. Firstly, try to take his head. Get comfortable with that, have him withdraw and then re-insert going a little further the second time. Make noise and let him know how he’s doing. Take deep breathes. Moan like there’s no tomorrow if you have to. Now repeat this. As he presses to pass the sphincter you’ll realise just how large he really is. Hang in there (and bite the pillow as they say) as once it passes and your sphincter relaxes then the sex will be amazing. This is one moment you’ll never forget. You’ll feel every part of his immense cock pressing against the anal walls. As he plunges and touches deep within you you’ll know there are internal organs that you didn’t know you had. You’ll be amazed at the passage of every inch of his withdrawal and return plunge. Back up on to him so that sometimes you take control of the depth and speed. Ask for more lubricant if you feel you need it. Relaxing that sphincter will immeasurably add to your pleasure. And say “enough is enough” if at any time you know you have reached your limits. There’s no shame in that. You do not want tearing as that will not only be painful but will require medical treatment and a considerable healing period - very hard to explain to partners and wives.

And do douche before you attempt taking a large cock (or any cock for that matter). Here's my blog entry to show you how How To Douche For Men: A Simple Male Douching/Enema Guide For A Clean Chute. When your canal is not empty then a long cock pressing against the feces can be very painful and uncomfortable for both of you.

All photos this page courtesy tumblr


So go and find your well-hung man, enjoy the particular talents he can offer you, use your own special talents back on him and together you’ll have a ride to remember.

And I leave you with this one conundrum – why is it so often the case that the man who displays his big erection on the dating sex site to lure potential sex partners is “only a bottom”?  Oh well, the rest of us can look and try to imagine what it might feel like “if only he would top me.”







A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS: How And Where To Find Your Man 

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THE VERSATILE HUSBAND: Live Your Passion This is a more comprehensive version of A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS and includes examining why as sexually frustrated men we feel the way we do and what can be done to improve the situation. Particularly useful for any married man who needs more detail  before deciding whether or not to sexually play with men.

e-book and paperback at Amazon.com or
paperback only at your favourite online or local bookstore.

"A straightforward, practical guide for men in heterosexual relationships who'd like to explore sex with other men. Frank, honest and understanding."Kirkus Reviews


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A collection of entertaining tall tales, and (possibly) true, from the secret lives of cats - as told by the cats themselves!  Mischief. Mayhem. History. Heroism. Revenge and Reflection - this is life as lived on the fur side, beyond the prying eyes of humans – where wisdom, adventure and love mix abundantly with mystery, murder and exotic locations.  A treat for everyone who shares their life with a cat.

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Monday 3 November 2014

Sex Buddies. Hot Sex On A Weekend Fishing Trip


Two or more buddies go away from their wives and partners for a weekend of fishing, drinking and fun in the great outdoors undisturbed by neighbours, phone calls or kids. They meet up with the local hunk of a ranger who they invite to stay and have a beer. In next to no time they are all naked and sharing full-on man sex.

Isn’t that the quintessential porn movie set-up that every horny guy in a relationship yearns to emulate?  And from recent conversations I’ve been having, it actually does happen (though not usually with “Mister Ranger Sirrrrr” being involved). And not only in Brokeback Mountain terrain.


A buddy weekend, ostensibly to go fishing in some remote location, is the ideal way for two or more guys to have sex that otherwise is nearly impossible during normal daily life. The concept of a fishing weekend or a hiking trip is universally accepted as sacrosanct man-time, unsullied by women or kids, where men can be men. What happens on these weekends stays only with the participants.

I’m hearing stories about nudity around the camping spot for the entire weekend. Nude swimming, nude drinking bouts, nude fishing in the stream. And then there is the sex – forget your everyday masturbation, these weekends are about fucking, sucking, multiple partners as well as a bit of experimental light bondage, tit clamps, maybe even some land-locked water sports. It’s about spur-of-the-moment bareback action fuelled by alcohol and maybe a little marijuana or other intensifier added for additional loosening of the inhibitions.

One man confided that to sleep naked in a tent with two other guys wrapped around him was a bucket list item he’d fantasised about for years. Peppered with additional sex throughout the night and first thing after dawn he couldn’t have been happier. The fact that they didn’t even try to catch any fish didn’t concern him. In fact they purchased a couple from a roadside vendor on the way home just to make their time look legit.

Another told me that he’d lusted after a neighbour who was an avid fisherman. Neither knew about the others M2M sexual interest. It was only after they’d pitched the tent and had their first beers that a noticeable erection in the shorts of one of them indicated a sexual interest. Some crotch rubbing soon made it apparent that it was time to get naked. After a bit of hesitant fumbling they began playing with each other’s cocks. When one suggested sucking the other, fishing was quickly forgotten. He said that it was the best weekend ever, because he not only found a sex buddy but could now legitimately justify to himself about getting away from the family home on a more frequent basis.

What I also heard from the conversations was that not only was the physical sex totally enjoyable, it was the liberation of being in an all male environment and one that had no boundaries. It was total male bonding where the conversations about repressed male/male sexuality opened up honest discussion. 

All photos courtesy tumblr
This spilled over into talk about sexual frustrations within the marriage, the pain of knowing your teenage kids were having more sex than you were, exchanges of information about where to find sex with other men in the neighbourhood and probably above all, they not only got to see, touch and pleasure another naked guy but the same pleasures were given back to him. It wasn’t about being gay or bi, it was simply guys having sexual fun without obligations or giving that fun a name. Like in teen sexual experimentation it was simply a few guys having no-harm enjoyment.

A weekend away at the football, a car rally, a snow weekend, a trip up the coast looking for waves – any excuse for horny guys to get together can also be a weekend of hot sex without calling in the suspicions of a partner. It’s a great antidote to the frustrating issues of “can’t host”. 






A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS: How And Where To Find Your Man 

When it is time to have sex with men, you need answers! 

Don't f**k up the potentially hottest sex time in your life by not knowing the facts. I'm the ex-married gay man who writes this blog, so I'm sharing my experiences with you in this easy-to-read ebook so that your sex with guys can be brilliant and always available. 

It's the best couple of dollars you'll ever invest!

ebook download at:

Everyone can now read Kindle ebooks: If you use an iphone or other smartphone, tablet or computer simply download the FREE app on the Amazon book page next to the Book Description and you'll be up and reading in seconds. Or visit: http://www.amazon.com/gp/feature.html?docId=1000493771


THE VERSATILE HUSBAND: Live Your Passion This is a more comprehensive version of A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS and includes examining why as sexually frustrated men we feel the way we do and what can be done to improve the situation. Particularly useful for any married man who needs more detail  before deciding whether or not to sexually play with men.

e-book and paperback at Amazon.com or
paperback only at your favourite online or local bookstore.

"A straightforward, practical guide for men in heterosexual relationships who'd like to explore sex with other men. Frank, honest and understanding."Kirkus Reviews


TALES FROM THE FUR SIDE: Purrfectly Adorable Cat Stories
A collection of entertaining tall tales, and (possibly) true, from the secret lives of cats - as told by the cats themselves!  Mischief. Mayhem. History. Heroism. Revenge and Reflection - this is life as lived on the fur side, beyond the prying eyes of humans – where wisdom, adventure and love mix abundantly with mystery, murder and exotic locations.  A treat for everyone who shares their life with a cat.

New to ship cruising? Get helpful tips about onboard procedure, an invaluable Check List as to what you'll need  to pack for shore excursions, PLUS details of 25 of the best European and Baltic shore excursions that I've undertaken. Make sure you have the best possible cruise - for all the right reasons.

CRUISE EXCURSIONS: 25 of the Best European Cruise Ship and Baltic Cruise Ship Shore Trips by Peter Benn      e-book or paperback